Gary Winters

Coach  Workshop Facilitator Author

Don’t waste time doubting your decisions. Act!

In a recent post, I listed Seven Simple Rules for Leaders. The sixth is, Don’t waste time doubting your decisions. Act. There will be time for learning later.

In other words, great leaders are decisive. They take a “ready, aim, fire!” approach. Far too many other leaders, in my experience, err on the side of “ready, ready, ready, aim, fire!” or “ready, aim, aim, aim, aim, aim, fire!”

A colleague and I were asked to facilitate an “emergency” leadership conference for the top twenty five or so managers of a telecom company which had just laid off one third of the employees (including many managers as well).

Everyone worked hard that weekend. At one point, we even had to have a “mock funeral” for a laid-off senior manager – the fellow who had played Santa Claus at the annual company holiday party for several years. It was a tough retreat, and the leadership team had to make many tough choices before it was over.

Throughout the weekend, John, the CEO, was getting feedback both directly and indirectly that one of the obstacles to the organization’s progress was his own indecisiveness. He was told by his team that he leaned all too often in the direction of accumulating unrealistically strong evidence before he choose a course of action.

John seemed stunned by the feedback, and wanted to take it to heart. At the conclusion of the retreat, he made some fairly predictable concluding remarks, thanking everyone for giving up their weekend, engaging in the process, and generating some bold new ideas on how to take the company forward.

And then he paused, and looked out over the group. “I’ve been given some rather pointed feedback about my decision-making process. I want to thank you for being honest with me. And I’m going to close with one thought.

“From now on, I’m going to be more decisive. If that’s okay with you!”

Sigh. Some people just don’t get it!

One of the most important aspects of leadership is good decision-making. I’ve co-written a book about it, To Do or Not To Do, which describes an easy-to-use system for determining how, and when to involve others in your decision making process.

What that book doesn’t address is how to be more decisive. If you’re going to be an effective leader, you must lean the direction of bold moves in response to changing conditions as you take your team or organization in pursuit of its vision.

So how do you get off the dime and make an important decision?

Here’s a simple system that a colleague taught me when I was wrestling with a tough decision. She suggested that I ask myself:

  • ž  What is my head telling me what to do?
  • ž  What is my heart telling me what to do?
  • ž  What is my gut telling me to do?

I believe most of us favor one of these domains over the others. For instance, I usually trust my gut to make the right decision. More often than not, it’s right. But I’ve learned I’ll make a better decision when I listen to my heart and head as well.

My head plays with the facts as I know them, and tries to reach a logical decision.

My heart deals with the feelings I have about the issue, and tries to make a decision that protects me as well as others from unpleasant emotions.

My gut, however, is driven by my intuition, and in my experience is often able to choose a wise path.

That said, my gut typically tells me to go with the first choice that comes to mind. (Must be from taking too many personality inventories, when we’re told to go with our first response, rather than trying to “psych” out the test.)

While trusting my works frequently, it isn’t good enough all the time. That is when I must let my head and heart weigh in, and find a solution that resonates with all three.

I’ve learned that I hesitate to make a decision it’s because my head, heart and gut aren’t in alignment.

Once I have that, I make a decision. I act.

I also take comfort in some research I was told about years ago. I can’t swear this is true, and I can’t site the research, but I was told that only about 4% of our decisions actually make a fundamental difference in the way things turn out. In other words, any choice is better than no choice at least 96% of the time.

So when I’m faced with a 4% decision, I ask myself three questions: What would my head suggest? What would my heart suggest? What would my gut suggest? Once I get those into alignment, I make a decision and don’t look back.

Am I always right? Of course not. But I can learn from poor choices, if they happen.

I’ve found a bias for action (and decisiveness) far outweighs the costs of being indecisive.

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Leaders make decisions every day – big and small. Most know that if they include others in the decision-making process, the quality of those decisions – and the commitment to them – will likely improve. That said, they also know it’s impractical, if not impossible, to include others in every decision they confront.

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