Gary Winters

Coach • Workshop Facilitator • Author
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Gary Winters
Coach • Facilitator • Author

Don’t work harder for someone than they’re willing to work for themselves.

You’ve got a problem with Darren’s performance which has been below standard for too long. 

You’ve stepped in do some performance coaching. You’ve been patient, compassionate, a good listener. You know the two of you have engaged in a problem-solving dialogue – certainly not a “Now hear this!” monologue from you. 

Despite four coaching sessions over the past six weeks, there’s been no improvement. This despite the fact that Darren has agreed a problem exists, he’s agreed things need to change, and he even has suggested a couple of things he could do differently. 

Problem is – he’s not doing them. 

Suddenly it dawns on you (perhaps in the shower, or during your commute to work, of after a long meeting) – you’re working harder for him than he’s working for himself. You’re putting in the time and the effort to help Darren, by exploring the performance issues, clarify your expectations and sorting out potential solutions. Each time you’ve meet you felt progress has been made. 

But Darren’s not doing anything differently. 

When you’re confident you’re working harder for Darren than he is for himself, it’s time to stop the coaching. Stop the problem-solving. Accept the notion that Darren has got to go. 

Good leadership is knowing when to hold ‘em, when to fold ‘em, and when to walk away.

If you have a Darren on your team, you know what needs to be done. Remove him. Do it and be at peace. You did what you could to turn him around, and it didn’t work. You didn’t fail – that’s on Darren, too.

Cut your losses and move on. 

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“What ELSE Your Boss Never Told You” is written in a conversational tone, as though you and the author were enjoying a cup of coffee and talking about the issues that emerge for new leaders. It stands alone, and/or could be read before or after the first volume, “What Your Boss Never Told You.” You can start with any chapter and read in any order you like.

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if you search for a book on management, you’ll find a staggering 600,000+ books currently available. How can you narrow that down? “What Your Boss Never Told You” is the best place to start.

No textbook here – this book is short and sweet. It’s designed to help you “unpack” your new job and be effective from the first day with your new team. It contains twenty-one chapters filled with the wisdom Winters has gathered from real managers – effective, successful leaders in organizations much like yours.

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Leaders make decisions every day – big and small. Most know that if they include others in the decision-making process, the quality of those decisions – and the commitment to them – will likely improve. That said, they also know it’s impractical, if not impossible, to include others in every decision they confront.

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Far too many meetings are dreadful, mind-numbing, energy-draining, productivity-sapping, colossal wastes of time. As someone once said, “To kill time, a meeting is the perfect weapon.”

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Managing friends or former peers can be awkward. When you become the boss, everything about these relationships can suddenly be uncomfortable. There’s a new set of ground rules to establish – as manager, you are going be accountable for the work performance of friends or former co-workers on the team, and they are going to have to adjust to the fact that they now report to you. Everyone involved can feel awkward and hesitant about the future. 

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If so, you’ve come to the right place. Help! They Want to Make ME a Supervisor will help you sort out a very big question: Should you accept the offer to become a supervisor? Once you’ve read this book, you’ll be confident that you’ve made the best decision for you and for your organization.

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